Every mom turns from the nice, loving mother to a tired mom
every once in a while. Whether it is the kids or the chores or your job that
are wearing you out, or a combination of more than one of these, you will need
a break from time to time. You will have those moments where you feel like you
just can’t go on and where you maybe even wish that you hadn’t taken on some of
the responsibilities that you have assumed.
Instead of transforming into something you are ashamed of or
feeling the overwhelming pressure that comes with being exhausted with a lot of
work left to do, try these tips to get a little breather every now and then.
Skip the Chores
Housework is important, but it isn’t always essential. There
are times when you just have to let it go, and you may not need to do that
cleaning behind the stove right now or scrub out the shower this weekend. You
have to recognize when you are too tired and when you need to just chill
instead of pushing yourself harder.
Pass off the Chores
Sometimes the chores absolutely have to be done. Someone has
to take out the garbage and do the dishes, or you are going to have a
bug-ridden house that doesn’t smell very nice. You can either get your kids to
do some of the work or ask your significant other. “You could also opt for a
cleaning service, which can do a multitude of household chores for you and take
the workload off of your entire family for a while” - Savannah who recently
wrote an article on why homeowners neglect house cleaning.
You don’t have to feel like you need to do everything
yourself. It’s okay to trust the work to someone else every so often. It may
not be something you want to make a regular habit in your life, but you can at
least give yourself a break and just to be happy with whatever the cleaning
service, your kids or your SO do as far as household chores. They may not do
the work to the same level of excellence that you would, but they can probably
do a decent job that gets you by for a while longer.
Vacation or Staycation
You may need more than a few hours or even a day off from
your duties as a busy mother. It’s okay to take a little vacation every once in
a while. This can be a simple outing with the family to the park or it can be a
weekend getaway. You can go somewhere close by so that you don’t have to do a
lot of travelling or spend a lot of money. You could also opt for a staycation,
which is exactly what it sounds like. You simply vegetate at home and take some
time off from all your duties. You can have the significant other take the kids
for a while or send them to a family member’s house or even hire a baby sitter.
If you worry about your kids being left with someone else
for a while and being deprived of mommy time, then you are probably a good
mother who watches out for her children. You don’t have to worry that they are
not getting enough time with you, and you can reunite with them after your mini
vacation. It’s important for you to get some rest and have a break every now
and then to deal with the stress and to ensure that you don’t lose your temper
or grow exasperated with the kids.
Let Your Kids Know
We have probably all had those moments where we are just
completely tired out and we need a break, but then our kids come up to us and
ask if we can play with them or take them somewhere or do something else to
keep them interested. If you are like most mommies, you probably had a thought
to just let them sit in front of a screen for a bit to give yourself a break.
You know, however, that you would feel like a bad mom if you did that. You
would feel like you were neglecting your kids and not give them the attention
they need and deserve.
What you need to realize is that your kids will be okay if
you don’t play with them one of the times they ask you to. They can entertain
themselves, and you won’t emotionally scar them for life by saying “no” to
them. You can just tell your kids that you are tired and that you need a break
for a bit. Most kids are going to understand. Let your kids know what is up,
that you love them, that you want to play with them, but for right now you just
need a break.
This does not make you a bad mother. You don’t have to feel
guilty about taking a break and not playing with your kids every once in a
while. Eventually, your kids will understand and respect your time a bit more.
They don’t need to be constantly entertained all the time, and you should never
feel guilty for feeling tired.
Most mothers get tired just by doing motherly things. That
is going to happen to you, and you need to realize that it is okay. It is
normal to be tired and not feel like doing whatever your kid wants. Your child
will understand that you need a rest, and you should not feel bad about taking
one.
You can even ask your kid to come lie down it you or take a
break with you. It can still be together time when you are feeling completely
exhausted. Of all the advice there is about taking some time out and getting a
break from the stress and exhaustion of your daily life, this is the most
important. Give yourself time to relax and rejuvenate so that you can come back
as your best self, fully energized and ready to go.
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